Let people know of changes in your life, both big and small. It will be calming for you and them. Here are some situations you might need to let others know about:
- Did you oversleep?
- Did you run overtime?
- Do you feel regretful over what you did?
- Did you change your mind?
- Did you realize what you really wanted or needed?
- Are you changing offices? Or jobs?
- Are you going to be more available? Less available?
I think we hesitate to share the running details of our lives for a number of reasons. We fear people:
- won’t understand
- won’t believe us
- will judge us
- will think less of us
- will be inconvenienced by us
- will be mad at us
- won’t care
In general, we fear people. And we fear engaging others because we believe that makes us vulnerable to feeling ashamed, nervous, humiliated, and bad.
Try to remind yourself that other people also know about change. Other people are going through change right now too. Don’t be so freaked out about letting other people in on where you are at. Your situation is not that bad. If your situation is that bad, you need to let your people know even more urgently. Isolation when you are experiencing change is a recipe for bad decision making, guilt, stress, and mounting fear. When you let people know what is going on with you, you will reduce the negative impact of the change you are going through and you will make room for a more positive adjustment. Best wishes to you as you make this change.
Who do you need to talk to today?
