Rediscover Fun and the Feeling of Being Free

Procrastinators are real drags. We complain. We mope. We are heavy in spirit.

We have lost the pleasure of having fun because we feel like we are behind time. As if time is running ahead of us. That is certainly not a fun feeling.

Others around us don’t really know how to have fun with us. We don’t have the time. We don’t make the time. We can never find the time. Seeing others be carefree and be carefree often and as they plan to gets our goat. Makes us complain that much harder. Makes us feel the depth of our stress that much more.

I’m planning on making this post short today because it’s Halloween, and I think there’s no reason not to have fun on Halloween. I think it is a holiday designed purely for fun. As long as you’re not terribly afraid of ghouls and goblins and carved-out pumpkin heads that is. I hope you find some time today to carve out some fun for yourself.

Here are some of the important reasons why re-learning how to have fun is important in recovering from a lifestyle dominated by Procrastination:

1. Going through your days without a sense of balance between work and fun is well…imbalanced. Our bodies, souls, and minds need the ebb and flow that happens when we shift back and forth between work and play.

2. Our hyper-seriousness during the worst periods of our Procrastination is unnecessary. We are simply wasting large chunks of time obsessing and perfecting, ruminating and delaying. More fun can be had.

3. One sure-fire way to show ourselves that we are “good enough” in the world is to allow ourselves the joy that others are allowed. When we keep ourselves away from certain categories of life experiences, like having fun, we become successful only at dampening our own spirit.

4. Procrastinators tend to be bound by restraint and caution. We are afraid to let this project go. We are too stressed out to make that phone call. When we are having fun, we experience directly the forces which oppose restraint and caution — the feelings of freedom and of being carefree. Again, it’s important to re-learn those feelings to break the grip of Procrastination.

Give yourself a break from the stress monster outfit you have on and go find a funnier costume for tonight. Take care of yourself and have a very fun Halloween.


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    Technique to Try: Put One Thing First

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    That Anonymous person does it every time.

    I very recently have become swamped with matters, both big and small, that I have to take care of.  Typically when I get into this type of swamp territory, I start to feel a haze of confusion.  What do I do?  How much energy to I spend?  Will I get anything done?  Will I have enough time?  Do I care?

    Deeper into swamp territory, I start to get irritable, frustrated, insecure, and upset that things aren’t magically going my way all of a sudden.

    Fortunately for me, I recently found a solution to swamp land.  Over a recent long weekend, I listened to the audiobook Essentialism by Greg McKeown.  Essentialism is full of helpful reflections on how we use our time, how we make our decisions, and how we choose to lead our own lives.  One of McKeown’s consistent messages is we have a duty to honor our brief time in this world by resisting the temptation to remain in situations just because.  He encourages readers to make the hard decisions about what to focus on, even when there is a cacophony of competing demands and requests.

    I highly recommend you read (or listen to) Essentialism.  It’s the kind of book that will be useful to all Procrastinators.  I could not help but decline an invitation I had received a few weeks earlier after listening to the message in Essentialism.  Although in my heart I would have loved to have accepted the invitation, nothing else about me pointed towards saying “yes.”  I basically knew I was not going to end up going, but absorbing the message of doing what is essential, helped me to get the looming invitation off my plate. {If you are interested in picking up a copy of Essentialism, click on the book image below (affiliate link).}

    Now, back to my personal swamp land.  I am getting better, gradually, at learning to define what I need to do first when I have a long list of things to do.  This has been a big life project for me, as I am not known for my whiz-bang prioritization skills.  I tend to lunge at everything all at the same time, rather than to pick a target.  Setting a priority, just one, uno, priority, has been helpful in getting things done and sharpening my own work process.  I have to be more honest with myself when I’m reviewing my options.  And if you don’t know this already, I feel honesty is essential to real recovery from chronic Procrastination. (Did you hear the whiz-bang?)

    Okay.  Now it’s time for you to take today and determine what your one priority is.  Remember — uno.  Then spend the rest of the day orienting yourself towards getting that priority done and eliminating those things that might slow you down or get in your way in reaching your goal.  Do as Anonymous does and have time for the things you put first.

    Please share your success stories here.  I’d love to hear from you.  Remember to also follow me on Twitter @ChristineLiPhD for more good words on all things Procrastination.

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      Celebrating 100 Posts! (Lessons Learned Too)

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      Celebrating 100 posts!  YAHOO!

      Maintaining this blog has become a great creative outlet for me both personally and professionally.  It’s also been a tremendous learning experience.  Every time I sit down to write, it’s a new adventure.  If you’ve been following my posts for a while, you know that the adventure can be a bit hairy, but I sincerely hope you’ve found the adventure to be fun and informative too.

      It doesn’t really get easier to create or to write posts, but the fact that I’ve developed a body of work and a routine of posting regularly is a big plus in favor of my keeping going rather than giving up.

      I’ve also learned:

      • I can help people just by writing.
      • I can help myself by jumping in and seeing where things go without having a pre-set plan.
      • I can have low-creativity days, but I can survive them and come back from them.
      • I can fit writing work in even when I don’t think I’ll have the time.
      • I can make something out of what seems like thin air.
      • I can feel accomplished when I try new things, even when I don’t know as much as what other people know about those new things.
      • I can make great friends (e.g. those people who know those things).
      • I don’t have to make masterpieces to relay my message.
      • My message is worth working for.

      Here’s another thing I learned in preparing for this 100th post:

      We can scare ourselves out of just about anything.

      In getting excited about this post, I also got a bit hysterical.  First, I figured I needed a really snazzy image or photo to denote the big deal of reaching 100 posts.  Then, I figured I needed some really smash-down content to denote the super big deal of reaching 100 posts.  And then, I worried I wouldn’t have either and my anxiety near shut me down.

      In true blogger style, I decided to trudge on and make something of this mini-struggle of mine.  I decided to set it down as it was – my anxiety about something pretty much insignificant and totally made up by me.  You see, 100 is just a number, and it’s actually just another post.  But as Procrastinators, we know well how there are mundane moments or tasks in our lives that we somehow manage to make into momentous nightmares for ourselves, and make ourselves disabled just by our thoughts.

      I hope you understand my message — you can move past your anxiety, especially if it’s crafted just perfectly by you for the occasion at hand.  Congratulate yourself on your creativity and your engagement, and then move on and do the work that needs to get done.  No drama, no excitement, just get ‘er done.

      Reaching 100 posts does actually mean something to me.  It’s kind of unthinkable that a Procrastinator like me might carry through to 100.  Having readers like you, who care to change your lives for the better makes my journey worthwhile, and the work worth doing.

      Here’s looking forward to the next 100.  I’m nervous already.

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        How to Determine If You are a Perfectionist

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        I often am asked if perfectionism is linked to Procrastination.  I answer with a resounding “Yes!”  We Procrastinators hold back from completing what we start, for fear of being found out for the imperfect creatures we feel ourselves to be.  We each have different stories about our personal deficiencies, and those stories are underlying our refusal to move forward with what we know we ought to be doing.

        Perfectionism is Neither Simple Nor Perfect

        Your day is filled with dread.  Each turn is loaded.  You rarely experience a feeling of comfort.  You experience generalized anxiety.  Your mood is flat.  You are oriented towards getting the approval of others.  You believe there is a “right” and a “wrong” way to do things.  You feel a hidden, but persistent ache for relief.  You experience a constant pressure to strive for more.  You engage in little to no relaxed leisure time.  You believe that one day your efforts will pay off, but your fear of the total collapse of all of your efforts seems to overshadow your hope for a big win.  You have a high need for control.  You are unable to communicate your full wishes to others for fear of seeming needy or vulnerable.

        Sound like you?  Join the very large crowd.

        Perfectionists come in all shapes and sizes.  We all crave a bit of perfect now and then.  It helps to buffer against the slings and arrows in this world, in our lives.  It helps to have an aim (perfection), but the problem with perfectionism is the goal (being perfect) will eternally be elusive.  This leads to bigger problems, like having our days be filled with fears of imperfection. Ironic, but true.

        Release Yourself from the Grip of Perfectionism

        I encourage those of you who are straining under the weight of perfectionism to consider coming out.  Examine what letting others know about what you know about yourself — the good, the bad, and the ugly — might do for your spirit and your ability to move in your life. Test the waters a bit.  Examine your own demands for order, correctness, meeting others’ standards.  Remind yourself that you can loosen up.  You may need the support of a therapist or another professional to release yourself from the grip of habit and the hold that perfectionism tends to have on our capacity to be flexible, open, and ourselves.

        When you come out you:

        • will feel uneasy
        • will feel like you’ve blown your cover
        • will feel like you’re not the expert anymore

        But you will also feel:

        • liberated
        • anxiously excited
        • renewed
        • available for change and learning
        • more present in your own life

        You will continue to be the striving, hard-working, well-meaning person you always have been.  No one can take that away from you.  When you decide you no longer wish to be bound by perfectionist standards, your innate talents and your ability to effect change in the world will only grow.

        Thank you for taking the time out of your day to follow me and my blog.  If there are topics that you are interested in hearing more about, please let me know by posting a reply here. Have a great day. 

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          Consider Yourself In

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          This morning I felt inspired to write about considering yourself in.  Part of the inspiration came from the Lao Tzu quote above.  When you take the meaning of the quote in, it’s breath-taking.

          We are master creators of myths, dramas, illusions, pictures, nightmares, catastrophes, and magical events.  In our minds.  If only those creative skills would magically turn into income, or a hobby, or a passion, or a masterpiece.  In real life.  If only.

          If only we could take our Procrastination-riddled minds and imagine for a few moments that the mere fact that we are Procrastinating means we are already in.  We are experiencing the adrenaline stirring and resisting the creative impulse, but the fact of the matter is we are already in.

          Procrastinators are prone to making a few mistakes with regard to their fear of getting things started or getting things done:

          • they believe they are not a part of things
          • they believe they are not ready for things
          • they believe they will feel run over when things begin
          • they believe they will be incompetent when things really get going
          • they believe they will not be able to adjust to the change they initiate

          Of course, these fears are only illusions.  You are an adaptable being.  You are a creative being.  You are in a community of people.  And you are already in.  I feel the need to add here that in my 20 years of coaching Procrastinators, not once was the issue the client’s lack of ability or competence.  Not once.  (#repeatmyselfThursday)  That fact really drives my work to help Procrastinators move forward with their lives.  I know deep in my heart the only problem we’re facing is the illusion.  That’s a great feeling.

          Today, consider yourself in.  Make yourself aware of the illusion you’ve been tweaking, put it aside for awhile, and consider what is before you — your opportunity to breathe, to act, to create, to move ahead in the real-life drama of today.

          What illusion are you currently masterminding?  Please share.  Also, remember to join me on Twitter @ChristineLiPhD for more insights on the battle against Procrastination.

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            Technique to Try: Get Rid of the Excess

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            It’s very easy to accumulate things.  E-mail comes in without our asking it to.  Laundry piles swell unremittingly.  Daily snail mail brings with it a pile of paper.  Everything we say “yes” to tends to hang around until we actually do something to terminate it.  There are some things we say “yes” to that seem interminable (can we all say together “neighborhood association board?”).

            When we are in our younger years, let’s say our 20′s, we tend to believe that the more we acquire, the better we have it.  By extension, the better we have it, the better we are.

            I would say when I was in my 20′s (yes, I still can remember thank you), I was not so much about accumulating things because I was knee-deep in graduate school, not making much moolah, and had too little time to focus on acquiring things.  Too much on my hands already.

            But then, in my 30′s, with the pressures of graduate school behind me and some income coming in, it seemed the wisest way to spend my leisure time was to accumulate things.  I wasn’t after anything in particular.  Whatever “need” arose, I suddenly developed the great capacity to acquire the thing that would satisfy that “need” so that I would no longer feel that “need.”  What a great system.  Following that system for several years, I convinced myself that I was capable, because I could take care of myself this way.

            Unfortunately for me, only part of that taking care of myself was working.  Yes, I was able to spot a problem and handle it.  But I was not taking care of myself in terms of making sure my acquisitions balanced out other important items like:

            • my actual need (not just my perceived one)
            • my budget (I didn’t keep one)
            • my space to house these acquisitions
            • my time I had to spend to go get these items
            • my need for rest and errand-less living
            • whether these acquisitions made any sense in my overall life picture

            Fast-forward to the present day.  I’ve spent the past few years — the past 12 to be exact — slowly learning how to curb the aforementioned system of self-care.  I reached a time in my life where real non-stuff matters easily trumped my desire to possess more.  I more recently reached a point in my life where I realized, I not only didn’t want to be saddled with stuff, I also didn’t want to be held back by living “the busy life.”  Being busy to look busy was making me tired, cranky, and pretty much unproductive all the time.  And please of course always remember whenever I tell you a personal story, you should factor in that you are reading about a chronic Procrastinator too.  I think that makes my story much more dramatic, don’t you?

            So what does this mean for you?

            I could go on about this forever, but I know you are reading this because you want to get on with your life also.  You want to be free to move about as you please.

            I suggest you take that potent wish and decide today which of the following categories you are going to take on first.  Are you going to cut out:

            • e-mails?
            • clutter?
            • expenses?
            • debts?
            • appointments?
            • stressors?
            • memberships?
            • apps on your phone?
            • relationships that are purely not good for you?
            • activities that don’t make you feel well?

            Recommendations for a successful go at this

            With excess comes a feeling of being stagnant, heavy, and overburdened.  In light of that, please be kind and patient with yourself when you decide you are going to start getting rid of the excess.  I recommend chipping away rather than hacking away the excess in order to ensure your sanity remains intact.

            Take an hour today and chip away.  Here are some general guidelines for doing so:

            • target your current zone of excess
            • spend 20 minutes in the zone with a focus on reducing, reducing, reducing
            • quickly reset your zone (especially if you created a bit of a mess)
            • set your plans for your next chipping away session
            • praise yourself, breathe, and go on with your day
            • repeat

            Have a great day today.  And tomorrow.  Chip away.

            Please share with us any stories you might have to share of reducing to get ahead.  I’d love to hear them.

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              Technique to Try: Thinking More Clearly

              USE UP (2)If I’m honest with myself, well, then I don’t feel much like myself.  I am a terrific liar to myself.  I tell myself:

              • I can fit 20 minutes into the space of 10
              • I can feel great tomorrow even if I go to bed at 2:30 a.m.
              • I can skip the process of putting important to-do items in my planner and then successfully remember them
              • I can drop this item anywhere in my home and the gods of supreme kindness will make sure it doesn’t get damaged, lost, or forgotten and my home will be uncluttered and neat

              Of course, my lies do not end there.  They can extend to the other major areas of my life, including health maintenance, relationships, jobs, and finances.

              There are a host of reasons why we learn to be deceiving of ourselves.  Here’s a very short list of culprits:

              • we believe we are limitless in our energy
              • we believe we can “make up” for things we’ve lost, like our sleep
              • we believe if we’ve invested money, time, or our feelings into something or someone, we must keep doing so, no matter how bad the situation is
              • we believe we have to be perfect
              • we believe we cannot reveal our insecurities to others
              • we believe no one else feels insecure
              • we believe no one will understand our perspective if we act truthfully

              How do you learn to be honest with yourself on a reliable, consistent basis?

              In trying to fight my tendency to Procrastinate, I have had to learn how to resist my immediate impulses (for delay, avoidance, and cluttering up my living space), and tolerate the temporary discomfort that brings.  In the past few years, I have learned that gratification doesn’t just come from the immediate short term.  I have learned that daily, small efforts bring me the most enduring and meaningful rewards.  Maintaining this blog is one of the examples I can think of where devoting my concentrated effort in small ways daily has paid off big time.

              Where might you start?  Will it be with your finances?  Will it be with your closet?  Your essay?  Take a look at what you’ve chosen and ask yourself:

              • How have I been lying to myself and/or to others?
              • How has that lying served me well?
              • How has the lying hurt me or other people?
              • What is the full honest truth about the situation?
              • What will it take to make a turn-around in my behavior and attitude?
              • Do I need to tell someone about my change of heart in order to make it stick?

              Try this today.  Take an entirely honest view of what you are delaying or avoiding.  Then take action without fear, instead replacing your worry with small actions that head towards the truth.  The truth of what needs to get fixed, opened, replied, reduced, or spoken.

              And the winner is…

              When you learn to be clear in your purpose and thinking, the honest truth tends to surface on its own.  You will feel it in your gut.  The signal will be there for you to read.  But only if you practice that ability of identifying the signal and abiding by it.  When you do, you will find:

              • you will stop hanging around the people in your life who don’t treat you well
              • you will be able to keep your home and finances running more smoothly as you make choices about how you keep your living space and your budgets clear of excess and stuff you don’t need
              • you will be able to make progress on projects that have been stalled if you determine they were really important to you

              Big wins all around, I’d say.  Best wishes to you.

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                Derek Jeter Reveals a Secret to His Success

                temp_collage_1411996667.823529I hesitated about writing a post about Derek Jeter because hey:

                • I don’t follow baseball
                • everyone else is writing about Jeter
                • I wouldn’t want you to think Derek told me his secret to me in person #heehee

                Despite my reservations, I could not resist writing about something I read about Derek Jeter this weekend in The New York Times.  In discussing how overwhelming his feelings have been during the last few weeks of his career, he said, “I have ‘em, I try to hide them. I try to trick myself and convince myself that I’m not feeling those particular emotions, whether its nerves, whether I’m injured, pain.  I just try to trick myself I don’t have it.”  When I read this quote, I was struck by the beauty of it.  I’m all with Derek.  It’s important to have your feelings, but it is also important to develop a practice of making sure your feelings do not get in your way.

                Procrastinators suffer when we get overcome by our feelings of:

                • doubt
                • frustration
                • fear
                • confusion
                • ambivalence
                • wanting to control our outcomes
                • hysteria
                • being less capable than our opponents

                So this is where Derek teaches us again (via another New York Times piece): “I think that’s where people get in trouble, when they start complicating things.  It’s really not that complicated.  The more complicated you make it, the more difficult it is on you.  You’re playing a game where you fail more than you succeed.  You’ve got to try to keep it as simple as possible.”  I really got the sense from this quote that he was speaking to US and not just to struggling baseball rookies.  Derek reminds us to strip our purpose to the essentials and to be wary of anything that might prevent us from seeing that purpose clearly.

                This is what the greats tend to do.  They work really (unbelievably) hard at their practice, and leave us thinking they make it look easy.

                Here’s the Jeter Take-away for you:

                • Be present in the moment and feel your feelings.
                • Challenge the feelings that threaten to take you away from your purpose.
                • Preserve your capacity to focus.
                • Don’t complicate your life.
                • Remember what is essential in the game you are playing.
                • We can all be champions.

                Thanks, Mr. November.  Best wishes to you.

                Registration is still open for a few more days for the Procrastination Coach October Workout Group.  Let me know if you’d like more information about it.  I’d love to work with you. 

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                  Communication Needs to be Transactional {to be Good}

                  temp_collage_1411618365.173272Since I spend my days working as a psychologist, I spend a lot of time thinking about, participating in, and looking at communication and communication dynamics.  I think about:

                  • what people are saying
                  • what they are not saying
                  • what they want to say
                  • what I want and don’t want to say
                  • the meaning of periods of silence

                  Of course, that’s not an exhaustive list, because communication is such a fascinatingly broad field of play.

                  Here’s a list of some of the lessons about successful communication I’ve learned over the years:

                  1. What we communicate is not conveyed just in words, but how we add our intention, motivation, and feeling into the words we use.  Inject your words with your curiosity, your wisdom, your humor, your drive, and/or your personality when you speak.  When you do, your words will really resonate with those listening.
                  2. The energy of communication between two or more people is live, and not fixed.  Though we may try mightily to predict what others might say, we have slim chances of doing so because communication is a veritable dance of human energy and creativity.  Enjoy the playing involved in communicating, and avoid trying to control what’s being said.
                  3. Listen well to be a good communication partner.  Let others know you are interested in what they say by listening closely (to what is and is not being said) when they are talking.  Good communication often involves patience, as there may be misunderstandings to work through before communication becomes clear.
                  4. What people say to us does not bind us.  We decide to be bound or not bound to those words and to people.  Do not be afraid of what’s being said.  But do be very aware and mindful of how you react to what’s being said.
                  5. Fulfill your own responsibility in making sure the communication is clear.  If there are discrepancies in times or dates, for example, play it safe and reconfirm details ahead of time to avoid finding yourself in a last-minute rush or panic.  I’m including this lesson here because I recently screwed up a lunch date because I assumed everything will work out just as I think it will.
                  6. Communication is an incredibly powerful method to combat anxiety.  That’s the whole premise behind psychotherapy, after all.  When you put words to your problems, you begin to develop a sense of mastery over your fears.  Talk it out.  You can do it.
                  7. What you are most afraid of saying aloud is likely the issue you need to address most.  What you are trying to say matters so much more than how you say it, also.
                  8. When you feel free to communicate openly and when you need to, you are likely in a healthy environment or relationship.  The inverse of this is also true.
                  9. Communication needs to be transactional.  We need not fuss and worry over what we say or feel our words will “make” or “break” things.  We are not the only ones responsible for making communication successful; those we are speaking to share that responsibility and should participate as such.

                  When Procrastinators begin to rely heavily on avoidance and denial, good communication tends to go out the window.  When Procrastinators feel backed into a corner because of disorganization, lack of preparation, anxiety, or workblock, they may lie to others or isolate themselves in order to feel better.  Unfortunately, when we lie or isolate ourselves from others, our stress tends to escalate quickly, because communication is no longer meaningful or effective at getting our point across.

                  It’s never too late to change how you communicate.  But good communication only happens with good practice and trust that your words will see you through.

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                  If you are interested in learning more about communication or feel you could use some coaching in that area, sign up for the Procrastination Coach October Workshop Group. The first lesson will be on communication.  The weeks following will include lessons on time management, control and perfectionism, and tools to maintain progress post-Procrastination.  Membership for the month is $10.  I think you’ll dig it.

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                    8 Methods to Cope with Procrastination-Caused Stress

                    temp_collage_1411398678.690100When we Procrastinate, we create opportunities for a chaotic mess of cognitive and emotional changes to enter our lives.  The following is a list of techniques to help you re-emerge from a Procrastination gap, if you are in one:

                    1. Be patient with your up-and-down feelings.  We have a tendency to believe our moods should be Even Steven when we are at work.  I know I don’t have to think very long before coming up with many, many examples of work experiences where my mood, which tends to be stable, was anything but.
                    2. Remember your doubts don’t represent reality.  To all the “What if?”-ers in the world, those what-ifs are fear statements run amok.  Don’t wager your bright future on those made up, extreme anxiety versions of your future.  Make it a habit of writing your what-ifs down.  The only value they will give you is the sense that your fears are exaggerated once you’ve tallied how many actually come true (if you can even tally a one).
                    3. Reject others (sort of).  Part of the reason individual therapy and coaching helps Procrastinators is because they put focus on that one person.  That one person who likely has been spending a whole lot of time comparing him or herself to those around them, even people who don’t actually exist.  It’s really, really, really hard to be the world’s best anything or something, so let’s drop the competition and let’s start living.
                    4. Join others.  Get into a group of like-minded people.  If there isn’t a group, form one.  Start with one person.  If that person isn’t a good fit, ask for his or her suggestions for who might be a good fit.  Let the stimulation of meeting and connecting with someone new enable you to forget your worries.
                    5. Stick with the basics.  When we sit with ideas or stress too long, complications ensue.  We get overloaded, tired, and unfocused and then get ourselves started on a bum foot.  Ask yourself, “What am I trying to accomplish here?” or “What aspect of this project do I understand so far?”  With a deep breath and answers to those questions, write two sentences, break out those tools, plug in that device, turn up the music and get started.  Once you’ve started, continue to keep the basics of your purpose in mind.
                    6. Look straight ahead, not up.  There are so many pressures to “make something of yourself” and to achieve and to acquire whatever (you fill in the blank).  Sometimes the message comes with the teaser that Happiness will be yours once you’re done.  We often think upward progression is the only path to success.  I’ve come to understand after years of working as a psychologist, that the sense that achievement is beyond your grasp, or only for the super-talented and naturally gifted, is a false one.  Achievement (including the upward progression kind) requires involvement.  Our involvement comes in the moments where we decide our efforts are worth our toil and trouble.
                    7. Adopt an accepting attitude.  We rail against life’s unfairness – our need for a root canal or to shoulder a burdensome task, for example – but we tend not to celebrate when life is…well, fair.  When you find yourself in a low moment or period, remind yourself that life is not stable, and then find a way to get your own sense of stability again.
                    8. Immerse yourself.  Instead of running away from what you need to take care of, run towards it.  Surround yourself with your unsorted documents.  Turn on the computer and get writing, or e-mailing, or planning.  The boldest way to deal with Procrastination and the stress of it is to go in.

                    For me, method #8 is the key.  It’s the key to me staying as clear away from Procrastination as I can manage.  It’s a daily struggle, but one that is well worth my while.

                    Which method is key for you?  I’d love to hear.  Please leave a reply here if you’d like to share your technique for getting rid of Procrastination-caused stress.

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