by Christine Li | Apr 19, 2014 | Actions, All Posts, Feelings, Theories, Thoughts
I was sorting through the day’s snail mail, when I had the thought about how very responsible I was being, sorting out the day’s mail. It was a minor thought, but really the idea of being responsible is a pretty significant one for me. I grew up feeling I was...
by Christine Li | Apr 16, 2014 | Actions, All Posts, Feelings, Resistance, Thoughts
Use Your Guilt Productively. Sounds like kind of a nutty blog post title to me. I feel guilty about that, but I will get over that and try to write. As a psychologist and a person with a guilt-checkered past, I am amazed at the types of guilt I see in myself and...
by Christine Li | Apr 11, 2014 | Actions, All Posts, Feelings, Resistance, Social, Theories, Thoughts
When we look outside of ourselves for confirmation of what we feel and do, we complicate matters a lot. We turn from knowing what we feel and do, to looking in other directions, away from ourselves. At times, we can look everywhere and anywhere else for any sign...
by Christine Li | Apr 9, 2014 | Actions, All Posts, Feelings, Resistance, Social
Let people know of changes in your life, both big and small. It will be calming for you and them. Here are some situations you might need to let others know about: Did you oversleep? Did you run overtime? Do you feel regretful over what you did? Did you change your...
by Christine Li | Apr 2, 2014 | All Posts, Feelings
I think it’s interesting when I suggest to a psychotherapy patient that they should consider coming in twice a week for treatment instead of just once, if even for a short time, the answer most inevitably is, “You think I’m really that messed up?” From my...
by Christine Li | Mar 23, 2014 | Academic, All Posts, Feelings, Resistance, Theories, Thoughts
We all start innocently enough. In childhood, I mean. Then life gets increasingly complicated. Very fast. My understanding of Procrastination includes a recurrent theme I see in my Procrastinating clients. Adult Procrastinators are so often just the adult form of...