by Christine Li | Jan 31, 2014 | Actions, All Posts, Feelings, Resistance, Theories
Working as a psychologist for many years has its perks. And I am not talking 401(K)-type benefits. I tend to think of them as my own private perks. Here’s a sampling: I hear people tell me things they have never spoken openly about before. Perk for me: I get...
by Christine Li | Jan 29, 2014 | Actions, All Posts, Feelings, Resistance, Steps of the Day
Sure, I’m up for being grateful each day as much as the next person. And I do believe whole-heartedly in the benefits of having a sense of appreciation for the things we are, have, and experience. I also believe in the power of focusing in on what is bugging us. And...
by Christine Li | Jan 21, 2014 | Actions, All Posts, Resistance, Theories
We may waste a lot of time in our lives pretending to be people we are not. We may pretend to be: compliant silent a go-getter solid confident perfect agreeable a do-er This game of pretend may have started many years back, early in your childhood even, when you...
by Christine Li | Jan 20, 2014 | Actions, All Posts, Resistance, Techniques
[Tweet “Half is better than none when there are things to be done.”] Being a Procrastinator often means being stuck in the middle of things. You’ve started something, and before you know it, you’re on to something else. You’ve decided you are going to...
by Christine Li | Jan 15, 2014 | All Posts, Feelings, Resistance
In the middle of a recent yoga class I was in (actually, in the middle of a pose I was stretching to do), my yoga teacher said, “It’s not about the end pose, it’s about what you learn about yourself trying to get there.” I found myself struck by the wisdom of the...
by Christine Li | Jan 8, 2014 | All Posts, Feelings, Resistance, Techniques, Theories
A few days ago, I wrote about getting rid of something that was nagging at you. I think the idea is important enough to elaborate on here. I have read the “unconscious” is a part of us where our unfinished business lies. In my own imagination, I think of it as a...