Get Rid of Your Guilt

Get rid of your guilt.  I know…easy for me to say.  I feel I need to emphasize this particular suggestion because guilt has such a powerful, negative effect on people.  After working for many years as a psychologist and coach, I have decided that guilt is the...

What If?

Be careful about using these two words — What if?  Very careful.  I have learned to brace myself when I hear these words because I know I’m about to go on a rollercoaster ride through the fantasy land of rampant worry (my favorite summertime...

Should’ve, Could’ve

“Well, I should’ve started it way before I did, and if I had, I could’ve made it terrific.” “Should’ve.” “Could’ve.”  Sound familiar?  When we use the words “should’ve” and...

When We Fail to Communicate

When we fail to communicate, a few things can happen: people get nervous we get anxious people are forced to use their imagination to guess where you are and what you are doing trust begins to erode Rather than spending time considering whether you should let others...

Choosing to Move Forward

When we stop doing what we need to do for an extended period of time, a general malaise results.  Our stress is no longer about the one thing that got us started procrastinating; it develops into a broader sense of dread and stagnation.  Possibilities and options seem...